After spending what feels like an eternity struggling with the anxiety that so often overwhelms you, you begin to let go, distancing yourself from situations that are impossible to ‘turn around’.

You no longer persist in fighting what you cannot change, and when you are no longer gripped by the urge to fix things at all costs, that is when a wonderful feeling emerges: LIGHTNESS takes over. Your heart is thus given a new lease of life to nurture your desires, to strive for your goals with determination but without anxiety, free from stubbornness.

Your state of mind and the desire for redemption are revitalised.
Anxiety subsides and courage rises.
You feel energised and want to put that energy to use.
You recharge as you move, ceasing to chase after things.

Giovanni Bigazzi

(Luglio 2025)

Love in all its forms (across the various levels of relationship – not just romantic or sexual ones…) is not measured in years but in the mutual understanding shown in guiding others (not imposing on them) along a path you may already have travelled, in the supportive gesture of an opportunity light-years away from obligation, and in genuine respect.

Love is an energy which, along the journey, can manifest itself as a bond that gives you oxygen, allowing you to ‘fly with your feet on the ground’, or, as you navigate life, can lead you to land on ‘forgotten shores’…

Certainly, true love does not shackle, does not possess anyone and, above all, takes vulnerability into account.

Love does not justify everything; love supports what is conscious within the freedom to choose, without the shadow of manipulation.
Only those within a relationship can understand whether a difference might be a limitation or an opportunity for a new beginning, amidst life’s inevitable ‘ups and downs’.

In an age of ‘constant rushing about and being in debt to time’, we sometimes get the idea that age merely ‘advances in numbers’ and increasingly becomes a cage, a ‘usurious hourglass’, that ‘time, the judge’, is always right, with an enormous weight which, as it flows, does not give you the chance to lighten the load, and that there is an inescapable legacy to follow...

But fortunately, it isn’t always like that; it isn’t a ‘social algorithm’. In any relationship, there must be no form of dependence (financial or otherwise)
but a constant sense of reliability – that’s what matters!

Every person must be independent; they must stand on their own two feet! Only then can you truly walk in step with a travelling companion.

Certain emotions can only be soothed in this way, with a hug. Certain hugs, or ‘hugs’ brimming with courage, mend what words have broken or failed
to express…

Age is just a number; it’s not a sticker with an expiry date. The future isn’t calculated but built, one step at a time, one step at a time; you walk, but without any run-up.

I therefore believe that ‘normality’ is the boundary that many impose on themselves out of fear of exploring. I prefer to walk freely, seeking the harmony that opens up every view (sometimes a grand door opens before me) onto the world, in the charm of a ‘caress of light’ beyond every dark corner, through artistic languages and in creating new connections, without disruption, far from ‘comfortable validation’...

Giovanni Bigazzi
(Luglio 2025)

Have you ever noticed that music knows you better than anyone else?
It surprises you, gets under your skin, and reads your innermost thoughts without asking for explanations.
There’s a song you listened to while crying, one that made you smile from ear to ear, and one that saved you when you didn’t even know what you needed saving from…

And it doesn’t matter if it was rock, trap, metal, or a classical symphony, a raw guitar or an out-of-tune piano, the true mix takes shape in the soul.
If it touched you, it gave you a burst of life; sometimes you don’t need answers, all it takes is a melody, a voice singing what you can’t put into words…
A rhythm that makes your heart beat when everything else stops.
That’s how music is, it enters a realm where others can’t reach,
where sometimes it hurts you, sometimes it makes you dance, other times it makes you reflect, and sometimes it can heal you.

Music transforms your joy or pain into sound and gives it to you; it doesn’t ask who you are, it embraces you, takes you by the hand, and brings you home.

Giovanni Bigazzi
(September 2025)

I don’t want to look at the world through the eyes of someone who’s already decided to give up.
Those who love you don’t protect you from your dreams, they help you overcome the fear of pursuing them...

I’d rather fail while pursuing something that’s good for me,
take the path that makes my heart shine along the way,
than spend my whole life feeling the weight
of an abandoned dream because someone else was afraid or envious of me.

My own fears are enough, there are plenty of them, even if I don’t usually show it;
I know them well, one by one,
I know them by name, and I don’t even have room for someone else’s fears.

I have to balance my load to take any path I feel is worth it, if it makes my heart race, taking into account possible falls but also potential comebacks.
If dreams are already hard to pursue when you believe in them, imagine how much harder it is when you start carrying a load of doubts in your luggage, not just your own, but also those of people who don’t have the courage to even try taking a step.

Despite the constant struggle that sometimes suffocates me during the fight, I still don’t give up.
If you want to walk beside me, help me find the courage, and perhaps I’ll be able to lighten the load so I don’t give up.
Otherwise, go your own way, don’t add any more weight to this backpack.

Giovanni Bigazzi
(September 2026)

Waiting to feel better before living is an excuse we tell ourselves, one of the most insidious traps we can fall into and thus we cut ourselves off from any chance of growth.
Not because life is fair rather than unfair, but often fate is a consequence of our intuition, which can be a (sometimes decisive) “modulator” of what ultimately happens to us.

Our dramas often stem from attachment to the external world, from an image that is perfect according to external standards but is destined to shatter…
No one can convince you or trap you in the same situation; others are there as a source of inspiration, not as a deceptive point of comparison (and that can turn out to be a curse).

Only you, by respecting your own identity, can change form,
and when you manage to change it without losing, or selling short your soul,
then you can set out toward an updated version of yourself; you don’t erase the past you simply put it in its place and move on...

The threshold of change isn’t comfortable, but it’s the boundary you must cross to avoid getting stuck in an environment that no longer supports your growth,
when you realize you’re not being valued.
A proactive life doesn’t come from some magical thought,
but from every small action you take every single day, to push aside resignation in the face of a rough patch or a situation where you don’t feel valued…
When you realize that you’re living a life that doesn’t “resemble you” at all…

Realizing that staying where you are takes more effort than trying to change means not giving in to the stagnation of discouragement that may have overtaken you, to the “I’m not ready” mindset and taking action anyway, even with trembling legs… but you take that step and move beyond the fear of regret.
Anxiety subsides; courage rises.

“We are who we are because of everything we’ve been through”
(says Rocco Papaleo)

It’s true that every real transformation involves a crisis, a moment when you no longer recognize the parameters you’d based your life on, because you’re letting go of who you were, but you don’t yet see clearly who you’re becoming.

Trying to get through it doesn’t mean succeeding right away; it means stopping being an accomplice to your own downfall… it means doing one small thing every day, right after you’ve faltered, even when your motivation is low or nonexistent…

Then you begin to embrace change, even in small doses; it can start with even the slightest movement—two steps that then become 10 or 100, and so on...
In life, change should occur not through explanation, but through replacement.
Change can emerge from writing from two lines on a page that, in their essence, can then open up an entire book...

You don’t have to fix everything right away; it’s not realistic to do so.
You don’t have to have clear-cut answers already.
You can simply start listening to yourself.
Stop chasing approval; stop letting yourself be sidetracked by “how others see you” while you’re fighting for your goals.
You don’t have to become someone else, you have to choose yourself!
A little more each day.
And return home, in harmony with your true nature.

“In life, one shouldn’t seek the ultimate truth often, everyone has their own, but one must identify all the false certainties we hold.”
(Socrates)

Perhaps it isn’t love that we lack, but the right distance to give relationships breathing room,
without the distortion of that “digital pulse” that today seems to mark the rhythm of “normality.”

Giovanni Bigazzi
(May 2026)

Healing isn’t about rewriting your past;
it’s about taking back the remote control so you can choose the programming.

Healing is wearing your scars without hesitation, as traces of the past,
not as a chain.
It’s about stopping old pain from dictating what you see,
what you feel, and the direction of your steps.

This is what healing is:
Stripping old wounds, whether physical or emotional
of the privilege of interpreting every face, every choice, every color of tomorrow;
stripping them of the power to hold you back from new discoveries.

It’s realizing that memory can preserve what has been
without turning it into the destiny of what will be.

Giovanni Bigazzi
(July 2026)

Anger overwhelms you
it takes hold of you without your permission before you can shake it off...
How many times
have you found yourself saying “it’s okay” or convincing yourself that something is fine when, in reality, it’s not okay at all...
How many times have you let things slide
when it would have been more uncomfortable but wiser to confront them?

Many believe that getting angry is a character flaw,
a reaction to be ashamed of,
an “un-Zen” attitude.
But anger is never the problem
it’s always the symptom.
This emotion “raises its voice”
when, for too long, you’ve kept a low profile
being understanding and indulgent toward those who haven’t been equally so toward you.

Whatever the source of the anger
whether it stems from a neglected grudge
whose traces keep growing—
when anger takes over,
it does so with a fierce clash,
and you always end up facing only yourself.

Anger
should not be ignored;
it doesn’t leave a permanent mark
it’s a fierce storm,
but a fleeting one.
Once the anger has subsided,
it must be channeled,
it must be transformed,
it must be recycled into love… for what you do.

Today I know that creativity
is the best vehicle for preventing anger from destroying you, but rather for turning it into the fuel for your freedom.

Giovanni Bigazzi
(July 2026)

Those who live in fear of losing someone can no longer see the person in front of them clearly; instead, they see the possibility of their absence, and sometimes the spectre of separation.

When you want someone in your life whom you truly love or hold in high regard,
of course there may be a fear of losing them,
just as with all the precious things in your life,
but if that ‘fear’ takes over, it is unhealthy;
‘healthy fear’, on the other hand, does not become the centre of the relationship,
nor does it take up the whole ‘living room’ of your emotional world.
That fear does not take your breath away; otherwise, you are not living with love, you are living in terror.

True love is synonymous with ALLIANCE.
True love
doesn’t possess anyone, doesn’t shackle you,
doesn’t make you tremble at the thought that someone might leave;
such a legacy is not
a form of devotion
it’s more like a cage
that prevents you from expressing yourself spontaneously…

When you start ‘measuring distances’, every delay sounds like a ‘threat’.
A message not replied to straight away; every silence is inevitably perceived
as a crack rather than a momentary pause…
Slowly, a relationship ceases to be a point of reference,
and becomes a place where you must ‘keep watch’ like a soldier on the lookout.

To value someone means understanding that love does not take away freedom,
but rather makes freedom all the more precious.
True love certainly does not possess anyone, nor does it make you subservient to anyone;
love does not shackle you, nor does it make you tremble at the thought that someone might ‘burst’ with a pine needle…
Mature love does not tighten its grip out of fear;
mature love trusts and observes, without the trap of surveillance.

We deserve someone who does not live in terror of losing us,
but someone who recognises our worth beyond every mood swing,
light years away from false validation.

Giovanni Bigazzi
(July 2026)

Perhaps we will never be completely healed;
amidst constant falls and just as many comebacks,
we learn to live with our wounds
and to fight for a better tomorrow.
Wounds and scars are not medals,
they are the notes you’ve taken over time
as you learn about life the hard way …
May the ‘you’ of today discover and nurture fertile ground
on which to write the future.

Whilst you are in the process of healing yourself,
and not necessarily with someone there to encourage you as you do so.
In fact, if there were someone there, it would be a privilege of humanity.

Hurting for fear,
due to accumulated stress,
or because you’ve ‘mismanaged’ your emotions,
is not the same as causing harm with deliberate intent...

Giovanni Bigazzi
(May 2026)

If we let our hearts speak every now and then,
a truth emerges of its own accord:
There is no love without those little pains that pass through us…

It is up to us to hold the helm through the many storms
of a bond we cherish,
whatever it may be, a partner, a friend, a lover, a colleague…

It’s the space in our minds that matters;
the rest shouldn’t be forced least of all time 
it can be asked for but mustn’t be demanded.
Even on the most overwhelming days,
those who want to be there will be there;
those who want to see or hear from you will always find a way.

I believe there is a very wise way of not forcing anyone to deal with your pain, and thus of stopping yourself from pulling someone over to your side when they are too weighed down by their own ego – especially in the midst of a storm.
When someone is going through a tsunami,
however much you want to understand them or show solidarity,
no outburst should clutter up your space, nor should it overwhelm you.

It’s not the ‘how much’
but the ‘how’ that matters.
Points of reference are anchored in ‘words of listening’.
If you’re a ‘home person’, that doesn’t mean
you have to be anyone’s unsorted rubbish tip.

Giovanni Bigazzi
(June 2026)

You cannot change until you understand the pain that is tearing you apart, whilst you remain stuck in lamenting, blaming others and pointing fingers.
It often happens that we allow the suffering to take over… but that is not the way to move on; rather, we must learn a lesson from that pain, if anything, and then move on…
Being strong does not mean being invincible, nor does it mean being shielded from pain; it means falling and getting back up, and knowing how to smile even during the inevitable solitary phase of recovery.

Pain is a messenger that is simply reminding us of who we are, and through that pain, by looking within ourselves, we can move on to the next level.
It’s a bit like a staircase in our lives: every time a moment of pain comes, when we fall and get back up, we realise that we’ve climbed one step, and then another,
and yet another…

Until, once we have assimilated and transformed that pain into a journey of growth,
we become increasingly awake, and everything we see happening in our lives – as we are more aware – becomes lighter, and we experience it almost naturally.

It is as though all those difficulties we have already faced – which used to hold us back and took days, months (sometimes years) to let go of and transform – now seem like a blurred image, no longer clear, and I believe this is a wise path (though not always an immediate one) for our evolution.
The mind heals only when it understands.

Giovanni Bigazzi
(July 2025)

COMPLICIT SORROW (Part 2)

If you run away from pain in search of a fleeting rush to help you forget,
then you’re on the wrong track, you’re screwed, and you risk ending up on the edge of the precipice all over again.
Pain chases you, and when it catches you, it breaks you all over again with a brutal blow!!

After a disappointment, which may have devastated you,
when rebuilding towards a ‘new beginning’, haste is poison;
it’s just an illusion that you can speed things up, but it doesn’t work,
especially if the ‘rubble and cracks’ are widespread across your territory.
That’s not rebuilding; you’re merely furnishing your ruins.

If your pillars are still standing, all is not lost, but it is absolutely essential to safeguard them and properly restore the ground on which they rest.
Once that is done, your pillars will stand more solid and radiant
in the eyes of those who see them.

Haste is detrimental; true recovery is never instantaneous: it requires time, patience and the courage to face up to what has hurt us, so that we can turn it all into a new beginning.

Giovanni Bigazzi
(August 2025)

COMPLICIT SORROW (Part 3)

People tend to ‘romanticise’ pain,
as if it were a rite of passage to something better,
something that sets your soul right.

But that’s not true; in reality, pain doesn’t fix anything, it just moves the furniture around in your ‘living room’ and leaves you to pick up the pieces – and that ‘picking up’, that daily struggle, isn’t down to any trauma; it’s down to you and your tenacity.
It means you’ve developed ‘the art of survival’ – that you can keep fighting even when the will to do so fades, when you’re fresh from a setback.

You learn to accept that some thoughts, some things, don’t come to a complete end, but you can interpret them differently and ensure they no longer overwhelm you; you can’t make sense of everything.

It’s part of the determination not to sink after taking a blow, but, at some ‘unspecified time’,
to have the chance to turn it into the momentum to attempt another climb back up.

Giovanni Bigazzi
(January 2026)

For centuries,
books and songs have been written, and films made, in which someone, in their own way, attempts to interpret reality.
Far removed from all rhetoric and
beyond any ‘script’ or cinematic interpretation,
when reality ‘bites’ you in the flesh, it is sometimes hard (though not impossible)
to heal the wound and accept the scar, if one wishes to ‘transform’ events
into renewed energy amidst the constant falling,
repenting, getting back up and carrying on…

It’s up to me to look after myself;
if I’m cold, I must put on my coat myself without waiting
for someone else to do it for me...

Of course, genuine friendship and healthy support,
kind encouragement NOT to give up,
a helping hand are excellent ‘boosters’ compared to finding oneself alone...

This does not detract from the fact that we are not alone when we learn to be with OURSELVES, before any support or ‘help from others’.
If it comes to lighten the burden, all the better – it is a sign of SOLIDARITY;
however, ‘basic protection’ always starts with US.

Willpower is not fleeting idealism;
it is powerful;
it is physical;
it is ‘tangible action’; 
it is the finest embodiment of every form of love.

Giovanni Bigazzi
(July 2026)

Struggle  is really the true test of openness.
I don’t shy away from it, even though everything has its limits – you know how it is…
Life isn’t easy; it’s often hard work.

There are constant pitfalls and obstacles.
When ‘everyday’ hard work becomes a burden, then you need to change tack so as not to be crushed…
Do they call it healthy self-interest? Perhaps it is, for one’s own protection.

Putting yourself out there, certainly, but it’s wise not to persist with challenges, without being at the mercy of the ‘must-solve’ mentality when the world isn’t falling apart;
you don’t always need to put your foot down.
When you can, it’s wise to slow down, before you blow the engine.
Slowing down does NOT mean RUNNING AWAY.
Sometimes you need some DISTANCE.

Life wouldn’t be life without effort, and our ‘emotional compass’ isn’t always the same for everyone; often, the healthy support of someone else is a godsend, even if they’re grappling with their own obstacles,
but if this ‘ally’ is there, they make themselves known,
find the time for genuine encouragement, and so you realise you are not alone at the mercy
of the ‘frantic spirals’ in this strange life, with its constant unpredictability …

Giovanni Bigazzi
(September 2025)

Authenticity isn’t about exposing yourself to just anyone; it isn’t about baring your soul in front of everyone, nor is it about leaning on the first available shoulder or selling your soul short in search of approval.

Authenticity is our vulnerability!
And vulnerability isn’t weakness—it’s openness; it’s the ground on which to cultivate a sense of belonging,
the silent gesture of those who choose to be present, to show themselves in both their strengths and their fragility.

It’s not masks that keep us close, but the freedom to be authentic without the burden of having to prove anything, without the fear of not being enough.

But if you share your authenticity without caution,
you risk exposure—that is, it might fall into the wrong hands of someone who, at first glance, seems to appreciate it, approaches you with flattery, but later tries to manipulate you...

The ability to be true to oneself is a virtue, but it must be exercised with discernment.
It means revealing yourself without putting on a show.
It means offering yourself, without ever giving yourself away.

This doesn’t mean closing yourself off, but choosing
WHAT to share about yourself,
WHEN,
and WITH WHOM.

To some, you’ll offer your surface;
to others, your depth;
and to a few, your soul.

You never give away your soul—
if anything, you entrust it, but always keeping the keys to it for yourself.

You must know how to return and close the door if things aren’t going well.
Authenticity is your stronghold with a drawbridge; if well guarded,
it allows you to feel again,
to get back up after pain (if you transform it), to move past a setback without betraying yourself, while remaining true to your nature.


Giovanni Bigazzi
(August 2025)

We often forget how important and useful it is to talk  not least to be proactive before a distorted idea takes hold when something is, in fact, unfounded.

In a fast-paced world full of noise and distortions, the most natural thing seems to have become the most difficult: a world where rushing after something takes precedence over stopping to be there for someone,
where we lose sight of the value of saying how we’re feeling, what we’re experiencing without holding anything back, what hurts us and what, on the other hand, makes our hearts sing.
We don’t waste time guessing what the other person might be thinking, because conjecture often doesn’t match the truth.

Talking helps to untangle the knots that silence ties, preventing small doubts from turning into great distances or suffocating regrets.

Talking also helps to test our intuition,
it puts our perception to work, enabling us to see the other person for who they are, not as we imagine or fear them to be.
Talking helps to avoid misunderstandings  those that arise from downcast eyes,
from messages left half-finished, from all those emotions that long to come out but often get stuck in the traffic of your scruples.

Being able to speak up as soon as you glimpse a dark cloud can avert a storm.
And then speaking can ‘bring light to your voice’, helping you discover beautiful things perhaps an unexpected surprise even in a shared vision or a common ground.

When you realise that you can lower that level of alertness (an echo of the past), talking can make us feel less distant, less alone, and less at the mercy of the tangles of this precarious existence.
Talking helps; even better if you’re facing someone whose sensitivity is attuned to ‘active listening’, where nothing is left hanging in the air or in the grip of doubt about what has not been expressed.

Giovanni Bigazzi
(December 2025)

Reciprocity
is not a calculation;
it is not emotional accounting.
Reciprocity is the feeling of not being alone in building something,
of realizing you’re not alone in bearing the burden...

There will always be times when someone gives more
and someone else gives less—that’s natural;
it depends on the circumstances we face and the weight they place on us.

Reciprocity is feeling that you’re walking without dependence
but in harmony toward a shared goal,
with the willingness to be there for one another and to encourage each other through the inevitable ups and downs.

The quality of our lives depends largely on the relationships we build
and how we nurture them.
(Quoted from Seneca)

The difference between a bond that nourishes you and one that drains you
lies in realizing that the journey toward that common ground
is mutual, not one-sided.
Otherwise, what begins as an act of altruism
eventually turns into emotional exhaustion.

Giovanni Bigazzi
(June 2026)

Emotions come to find you
You can’t lie to your emotions;
emotions come to find you,
breaking through the walls of reason.
Without asking your permission to settle in,
they creep deep inside...

Just as you can’t choose whether or not to let your heart beat,
you can’t choose how or when to feel moved.
When something strikes you
a glance, a sound, a memory, a touch
your breath changes rhythm...

Emotions are often uncomfortable; they’re imperfect,
but they’re never mistakes they’re always legitimate...
Emotions reach a place where no one else can go.
Whether in wonder or in sorrow,
emotions leave their scent everywhere.


Giovanni Bigazzi
(November 2025)